Being Newly Dignosed During the Holidays~



Good afternoon readers, I hope today finds you in good spirits, as its raining and damp outside, My husband and I plan on going to our cities tree lighting this evening, and make more Precious Christmas memories. I hope your living in the moment, and not getting overwhelmed by the holiday’s celebrations. Always make time for yourselves. The topic I want to address is “How do you manage the holidays, when you’re newly diagnosed?”
  If only I knew then, what I know now, how many of you have found yourselves asking this question. How you handled the holidays when you were first diagnosed verses now, and what you know about IC.I know I handled it differently, as im sure most of you did too. Getting a diagnosis like Interistsial cystitis is mind blowing, dealing with the Christmas season can feel overwhelming, but what happens, when they coincide together?
 Its important to always take care of yourself, especially during the holidays, and not loosing yourself in the hustle and bustle of all the plans and commitments and parties and family gatherings. How do you not fall into a tailspin of emotional guilt for every party you can’t attend, for the plans you have to cancel at the last minute.
As you grow and learn as a person and learn what are healthy boundaries, whether your newly diagnosed or have dealt with IC for years, you learn the most important lesson, the lesson of how important it is to care for not just your physical health, but emotional health too, they overlap.
  We each play a part in our own treatments, we know stress triggers flares, stress can wreck havoc on anybody, IC or not. I understand you do not want to disappoint, none of us do, but we can’t continue looking through our eyes with that perspective, we need to know its ok to say NO… I can’t make that party, we CANT constantly live in people pleasing mode, we love our families and friends, but part of loving others is loving yourself too, don’t push beyond what you know your own body can handle.
 Do what you can do and that is your best you gave. Stop blaming yourself, and start loving yourself. Those who have just been diagnosed seek out the guidance of others who have gone before you, who have walked this path longer and seek their wisdom, we can learn so much from one another if were only open. Always be gentle with yourself, sit back and enjoy a hot cup of cocco,watch the pretty lights flicker on the tree.
   Go for a ride around your neighborhood if you can and see all the pretty lights, remember memories long outlast wrapped packages under the tree and above all remember you are a gift, so treat yourself with tender loving care, and were all learning and growing together. Live in this moment for it never will come again.
May the beauty of this Season, fill your hearts and minds and may you and your families be richly blessed! Merry Christmas~

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