Series~Part 4 of Coming Terms with IC~



     Good afternoon my readers. What a beautiful day it is today where I live. The sun is shining through my living room window, and I can feel the warmth upon my face. This makes me think how thankful I’am that I can have eyes to see the breathtaking beauty of Gods creation. Today we are wrapping up our series on the stages of coming to terms with IC.
    We’ve walked this journey together discussing these stages side by side, hand in hand. Here you are you’ve got a diagnosis which you wanted to deny was real. It was a shock to say the least; you thought of bargaining with it ill do this if only this disease will go away. Then came the anger, you thought the more angry I get the more you could fight it off, but anger didn’t change what was. I built walls so no one could reach in. Then the anger gave way to depression, I felt like I was on the edge of a cliff, looking over the side of what seemed like a fall that would just keep going, with nothing to grab a hold of.
    What was left for me, you asked? You hated the feeling of being out of control. My circumstances were changing, but so was I.I was so afraid I’d lose myself in all of this. I was determined to take back what was mine, my life, but I had to walk the stages of grieving which results in acceptance. I want to show you that accepting this is NOT about letting it define you or confine you, its about coming to terms with what we cannot change, and making the most of what is.
   Does acceptance mean you give in? Does it mean you’ve lost this fight? Does it mean it confines you to a life if bitterness? Does it mean things can’t get better, no it doesn’t. You may ask yourself, what does a better life with IC look like? I hope I can help you in that area. Acceptance just knows that there are circumstances in our lives we can’t control, no matter how hard we try. We need to deal with the here and the now. Walk up to it and tell your IC you’re not going to control this life , my symptoms I  cant always control when they flare, but there are ways to help myself, but when we stress over a situation we can’t change, stress just   multiples.
    We have to believe that the road can rise up to meet us. Having a positive attitude, helps tremendously, this is not always easy. Anytime someone deals with chronic illness or chronic pain it wears on your bodies and our emotions, Were human though. That’s why God gives us strength, that’s why we have one another to bear one another’s burdens, and walk beside each other when the going gets tough.
I found a awesome quote and it really sums up, what it means to accept: This quote is by Sonia Ricotti~ Accept what is let go of what was and have faith in what will BE~ when I read that I l stopped what I was doing and reread those words, WOW, such truth they speak, and though they are few, the message is simple and right to the point. It puts the serenity prayer into a whole new light.
   When we can come to this point in our journey, do your best, try to be at peace don’t focus on the negative, look for the positive. Maybe there isn’t any positive in this situation, but I know if you look closely, you will find your blessings, even if they are small to be thankful for. Im trying to focus not on what I don’t have, but what I DO! Look for that beauty! My beautiful blessings are a God who sustains me, who provides for my needs, who cares about what matters to Natalie. Put your name there, God cares about……….. I have eyes to see the sun, the flowers, I have a Loving husband, loving family, and remember family isn’t always blood; it’s those who are in our lives, who invest in us, and what matters to us. Who aren’t afraid if your life is messy, they are there to help you pick up the pieces. Amazing Best friends, wonderful IC and fibro families~ godchildren I love with all my heart and soul, as if they were my very own. When we can learn to shift that focus, then we learn what it means to accept and we find inner peace.  When we embrace what is, and not beat ourselves down, its as if a heavy burden is lifted off your shoulders, your able to walk again. Acceptance is NOT submission! It’s just acknowledging what you’re dealing with and having a inner peace about it. It helps us see through new eyes, instead of a tainted cloudy view. Then you can see what your best course of action is.
 Peace follows a sense of tranquility and the stress of trying to fix the problem. What a sweet release to release that weight and now you can focus on what is  Truly Important loving yourself and giving yourself tender loving care, while you make your way through this journey of IC~

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